Truth is truth. There can be only one scenario that truly happened and everything else is untrue.
However, it is also said that perception is reality.
The fact of the matter is that to try to live in search of the pure, honest truth is a practice in insanity; especially if a situation involves anyone other than yourself.
People’s perceptions of events are colored by the lens through which they see the world. This lens makes the same event look different to different people. Such a lens is colored by one’s emotions, fears, insecurities, and experiences, among other things. The perceived truth, then, is influenced by such characteristics and produces a confusion that people must live in.
It stands to reason, then, that there is more than just one truth – there are the objective and subjective truths.
The objective truth, which we have already established is nearly never realized, is the accurate count of events as they happened void of any emotion, fear, etc. The recounting of the objective truth has slim chance of being realized only when there is nothing to be gained or lost by such recount.
This is why objective truths are unicorns – something that we may talk about but does not exist in the real world. Rarely is there a situation in which there is nothing to be gained or lost, or at least perceived to be gained or lost, by one’s involvement in a situation. The saying “no good deed goes unpunished” comes to mind, here. People are imperfect and will act to protect their own self-interests which will produce unreliable information, even in the best of cases.
Even with no ill-intent, people will see and report things as seen through their own lenses making objectivity rare.
The world deals exclusively in subjective truths. The subjective truth is perception; and perception is lousy with unreliable emotion and insecurity.
The subjectivity of truth is what creates “gray areas” that make life all the more challenging to navigate. With each additional person added to a situation, the more fuzzy and distorted the truth becomes and it soon becomes a practice in finding the scenario of best fit – the most probable truth based on the scenario that makes the most sense to the most recollections of an event.
I have discussed these gray areas before in decision making and I will discuss them again, here. I do not like gray areas and drive to see things for their objectivity and truth. I encourage others to do the same through intentional detachment from situations and focusing on facts rather than emotion.
There are people that make careers out of successfully navigating gray areas in a way that benefits them. There are people that live for the excitement of the negotiation and the thrill of playing to people’s emotions to change their perspective or have them thinking in a specific way.
Navigating these gray areas is a necessary skill when dealing with emotional beings. Those that can do this the best will often be the most successful as they are best able to bring people to their side of an argument to strengthen their forces.
The subjective nature of people makes many things that should not be negotiable, negotiable. This propensity to be influenced and persuaded leads to the many inefficiencies that people face daily. Succumbing to such influence and persuasion is weak; however, some will willingly be persuaded and influenced as it takes a load off of their shoulders and a decision off of their mind as they allow others to make their minds up for them.
As commentary on Integrity, it should be obvious that this willingness to be persuaded is low Integrity behavior. As we are discussing subjectivity, the fact that people are motivated by their own interests and self-preservation, my point somewhat makes itself. Those people that are attempting to persuade and influence others have their best interest in mind and are out to push their agenda forward. Allowing oneself to be persuaded is forfeiting Integrity to another and tainting one’s own Integrity.
Without the strength and unity that comes with one’s Integrity, one is more susceptible to persuasion and outsourcing their decisions to those seen as an authority or as having more knowledge then oneself. That gray area that such people like to live in is leaving them exposed to those that have learned how to navigate this fog and lead others to make logical connections on their playing field rather than one’s own.
Living in This Reality
The subjective nature of truth in the real world leads to many unfair situations. The acceptance of the gray areas in day-to-day life is a cop-out that sidesteps logic and emotional development. Those that strive to find the objectivity in situations are fighting an uphill battle with minimal resources on their side.
When such subjectivity cannot be beat, the Initiated must turn their attention instead toward navigating in this territory of indecision and half-truths. The ability to detach from one’s own emotions and focus instead on how to navigate the emotions of others is the best way to find closure.
When two or more parties are driven by emotion over logic, there is no appeal being made to a logical and collected being. Emotion does not reason nor does it listen. Emotion is akin to a freight train barreling down the tracks destroying anything in its path. As it continues farther down the hill, the more momentum it picks up and the more destruction left in its path. It takes at least one person to derail the runaway train, pick up pieces of information left behind, and tie together the information into coherent thoughts.
The Initiated will fill this role more often than not. The Initiated perform the required self-reflection and are equipped with the tools to handle such conflict. They are able to emotionally detach from a situation to be the voice of reason.
It may be unfair that this responsibility should fall on the Initiated; however, as we are best equipped to take this role, it is our responsibility to see past our immediate impulse and look onward toward the bigger and better picture that must be upheld.
Once one learns to navigate the minefield of others’ emotions, they are able to show others how to do the same for themselves. It is through such practice that the Initiated show the power of the Tenets.
Be better than average – fill the roles that we are best equipped to fill and make a difference in the world through making a difference in the immediate communities that you affect.
Yours in strength,